Second Sundays

A Second Sunday. A first month.

I didn’t know of Jim Haynes until I read about him this week in Leo Hollis’s Cities Are Good For You: The Genius of the Metropolis. He’s an American in Paris who, for almost 40 years, has held an “endless dinner party” in his apartment at 38 Rue de la Tombe Issoire in Paris, inviting anyone and everyone, a salon for the world.

There’s no prior screening, no invitations, “Mr. Haynes, 78, said. “I just say the first 60 or 75 that call can come and that’s the mix.

More about Jim Haynes: Sign up for his dinner!

Inviting the World to Dinner

Jim Haynes: Godfather of the Supper Club

My goal for Second Sundays has been to create community around food like this, albeit with more structure. But structure, which can often be freeing in its application of constraints, can also be limiting, binding, onerous, and suffocating: perhaps it’s time for the structure to go, the strings to loosen, the lid lifted off. Perhaps it’s time to approach this dinner series like Jim does: Open. Trusting. Que sera, sera.

Q. How does your supper club operate?

A. We have a volunteer chef system. I have a Rolodex of 12 cooks. I just call them up and ask who’s ready for the next one. The food changes. The woman cooking this weekend is Russian; last weekend, the chef was Macedonian. The meals are almost always three courses, and there’s always a vegetarian option. There’s a suggested donation of 30 euros, but you give what you want. – Dinner? Paris? Invite Everyone!

John Locke said that ‘trust’ was at the heart of any society; and this notion of ‘trust’ has too often been ignored in the discussions of how to make a happy city. –Leo Hollis

Our last supper club was hosted at Andrew’s house in the Central District, including Andrew, me, Debra, Chris, and Aaron. Debra plans to host our next one (in April). But after that, I’m loosening, billowing, opening this supper club up to the world. Jim has the irresistible draw of hosting in an atelier in Paris and Seattle is no Paris, this is true. But Paris is no Seattle, either. There are beautiful, interesting people where ever you go.

Will you spread the word and cook for us?

Generalized trusters are ‘happier in thier own personal lives and believe that they are the masters of their own fate. They are tolerant of people who are different from themselves and believe that dealing with strangers opens up opportunities more than it entails risks. –Leo Hollis

Second Sundays

Andrew, Deborah, Aaron, and Chris. Sunday, January 10, 2016. Seattle.

Second Sundays.

Chris and Aaron. Sunday, January 10, Seattle’s Central District neighborhood.

Second Sundays

Hot buttered rum, compliments of Chris. Second Sundays, January 10, 2016.


A Second Sunday. An Eleventh Month.

Butter yellow formica isn’t a material you see everyday. Unless you’re at my house. Our dining room table is butter yellow formica, with metal trim and dark wood legs. We bought it at an architectural salvage store in Baltimore for $60. We love that table, and have had many a great conversation and hearty laugh around it. Here’s to many more.

A beautiful, related essay: The Families We Choose.

These days, tables have come to represent a surface where sustenance and creation come together – a place to wonder and to solve problems, to probe and to redefine our roles. It stands as a symbol of our connectedness with each other and with ourselves: We come to eat, we stay to dine. In this way, the table has become a site where our lives play out and where we draw ideas and narratives into existence. How we set the table, how we spend time at the table and who we choose to share the table with directly reflects the way we live away from the table – change one, and you’ll inevitably change the other. – Kinfolk, Issue 18: The Family Issue

Second Sundays, November 2015: Ann, Erika, Olga, Alex, Stacey, Jay, Aaron, Andrew, and Callie, Will, Oslo and Mies (Hosts). Video below also from Kinfolk, Issue 18: The Family Issue.

dinner party

A Second Sunday. An eighth month.

I like to think that meals like these provide ballast. They’re something we can count on, that we can regularly look forward to. But the opposite is also true: One reason we cherish them is that, deep down, we know they’re not forever.” – Adam Rapport, Editor, Bon Appetit

Eating, Drinking, Talking: On the Importance of a Regular Meal with Friends


In a garden on a hill on a street in a house that nurtures little people. We met and ate and talked and laughed. Of Spain and travel and novel conventions. Over tapas and sangria and sometimes each other (but not that often). Second Sundays, August 2015. Bronwyn, Brent, Callie, Will, Chris (Host), and Kelly.

supper club planning

The Inaugural Second Sundays.

Second Sundays (not to be confused with Sunday Suppers, although if you did confuse ours with theirs, we would be flattered) is what we’re going to call it. Inspired by the Kinfolk Manifesto.

Governed loosely by these nine rules:

Second Sunday, No.2 February 9, 2014.

Host/ Aaron

Word/ Milquetoast

Bartender / TBD


The nine founding members are Callie, Will, Anne, Henry, Laura, Aaron, Rob, Allison, and Andrew.

1 “Second Sundays”, meaning the second Sunday of each month at 4:00 p.m.

2 The Host sets the theme.

3 The Host provides the main dish.

4 The Bartender contributes a cocktail that complements the meal.

5 The DJ brings a playlist.

6 The Guests bring satellite dishes which complement the main dish.

7 The Guests agree upon a word to be used as a discussion starter for the next supper.

8 If a Guest can’t show up for a monthly supper, we open that seat up as a wild card.

9 One Wild Card Guest allowed at any supper to liven things up. Host’s choice.